Let Men Answer.
There is one question, so powerful when asked, I can feel it. To feel the power of language at a visceral level; is an experience.
It’s a question I might offer after he’s shared some history. A possible story of substance abuse, jail time, loss of respect, loss of family, and so forth. I listen. It’s his-story; his history. I respect his experiences, and I pause. I take a deep breath, and say, “OK … I understand …” then ask, “Now what kind of man do you want to be?”
His entire demeanor changes. He is interested. Almost shocked that he gets the option to become the kind of man he wants to be.
I have offered an opportunity using language, and if I let him answer, he will tell me what he is worth by telling me what kind of man he wants to become.